This is one of my favorite wedding venues in Boston. You are able to incorporate the city scape with some beautiful gardens right outside the hotel. It gives you the best of both worlds for a wedding. City and gardens!
This wedding photo is one of my favorites. The best man was giving a speech and the room was laughing and laughing. It made me realize that not everyone knows how to give a toast.
Its nerve wracking. You get picked to be the best man, and then you have to plan the bachelor party and it dawns on you. You have to give a toast as well. Here are some tips on how to write a great toast for a wedding.
First, its about the couple, not you. Sorry!
If you are using the word "I" more than twice in the toast, you are doing it wrong. If you are telling stories about you and the groom, you might be doing it wrong. If you forget to mention the bride, you might be doing it wrong. If you read the words "To the bride, you look beautiful tonight", you are absolutely doing it wrong.
You want to make sure you actually MEAN it when you say "to the bride, you look amazing." When you read it from a piece of paper, it sounds very disingenuous. You should actually take it from your heart. We all know you are nervous, but having written down how pretty someone looks before you have even seen them, seems strange. That brings me to another thought. Bringing up a few sheets of paper. If your toast is more than a page long, you have now left the realm of toast and have entered the realm of giving a speech. At a wedding, it is NOT a speech. It is a TOAST. From the Dictionary
speech spēCH/ noun
|synonyms:||speaking, talking, verbal expression, verbal communication"he doesn't have the power of speech"|
|synonyms:||talk, address, lecture, discourse, oration, disquisition, peroration, deliverance, presentation; More|
|synonyms:||tribute, salute, salutation; |
archaicpledge"he raised his glass in a toast"
You are in a gathering of people for an occasion and you will raise your glass in their honor. That should take a lot of the pressure off you right there. To me, that means... keep it short! You don't have to have some story and you don't have to go on for 23 minutes about how you meet the groom.
I have seen some amazing toasts. They are simple, they are quick and they are meaningful. They come from the heart. I had a great example of a toast at the Concord Colonial Inn at the wedding of Jonathon and Sarah. The toasts were heartfelt and had nothing to do with the people giving the toast. If you have a minute to read a short snip-it of the toast, I posted it on my blog. You can read it here
Location: Renaissance Hotel Boston MA.